Summer, Fall, and Winter 2016

These blog updates are starting to become annual posts. : )

Now that Harrison is bigger, traveling to farther destinations has become a lot easier. This summer we took a few trips with our families. 

In May, we took a short weekend trip to New Jersey where the band Trashcan Sinatras was putting on a show. Chris had spent almost a year designing everything for this band that he's followed since he was a teenager. It was really great to take the boys on this trip and took a detour check out the Sterling Mining Museum. We also got to enjoy a nice dinner with the band and watch the show at our VIP table. We swam in the hotel pool which had a indoor outdoor "car wash" access, there was a water slide, and an underwater fish tank. The boys had a sitter to put them to bed and they had no problem with us leaving. Overall it was a very successful and fun trip. 

In July, Grandad and Joan rented a house in Ogunquit, Maine. We decided we'd spend our 4th of July in this small lobster town. It took us about 6 hours to get there in our Zip Car with all the other holiday travelers. Luckily we have gone on a few of these road trips, and now we are totally prepared with snacks and iPad/headphones. No more carsickness and the kids were very patient and cooperative in the car. 

Dad and Joan were excited for some hide and seek, and Joan was prepared with lots of art projects. We went to the beach 3 times and got to experience the beauty of the beaches there. We even had a playdate with Oliver's school friends Violet, Caitlin, and Ashley, who moved away with their family to Maine during their Kindergarten year. We went on a lobster boat tour, watched the fireworks on the beach (which we had to move closer to shore as the tide rose very very quickly), we went on a hike along the coast, and ate lots of lobster. The location of our rental house was just a short walk from a draw bridge, and the town had a trolley that took you to the beach. We will definitely plan for a future trip to Ogunquit. 

After a week returning home. Aunt Carol came to spend time with the boys. As always she has a suitcase full of things for the kids. We stayed close to home this time, we went to see a movie together, and waited until Ama arrived a few days later. Then we packed into a zipcar again and headed for Hershey, Pennsylvania. There we stayed at the Hershey Lodge, we went to the park, the garden with the butterfly exhibit, zoo, water park, another trolley ride, Hershey world, went to an underground cavern, and ate lots of chocolate. The resort had a wonderful mini-water park where we spent many of our afternoons there. Just before we left, I had quite a scare not able to find my phone. Luckily it was found just in time for us to hit the road. 

We also took a trip to a nearby farm called Stone Barn Center for Agriculture and met our friends Jamine and Jacob and Zak there. The same trip we visited the Philipsburg Manor, and old flour mill from back in the days in Sleepy Hollow. And checked out the Storm King sculpture garden. All in one short weekend trip. 

We had a good summer with our families and it was nice to get back to school and back to a routine. Oliver is in 3rd grade and rides his bike to school. He’s got a really cool teacher this year so I’m very excited for him. He still takes drum lessons on the weekend (Uptown Funk by Bruno Mars) and we’re looking at maybe getting him a real drum set to keep in his room. Not that he’s gotten so good at it, but it’s just more satisfying to play on a real drum set. And maybe that will encourage him to play even more. He also went to his first sleep over party at a friend’s “summer house” about 2 hours away. They even went to watch a demolition derby. And he finally got a nerf gun.

Harrison is doing great! He’s been in speech therapy since February and now he is talking in short sentences! He’s such a hard worker. He never gets upset when I correct him. In fact, he will self correct when he knows he’s not saying it right. One of the therapist figured out that he lacked control of his jaw which affected his control of the tongue. So once they started working on that, his articulation improved. It’s so amazing that I can see how with each new sound he learns his vocabulary expands. Now that he’s in school a few days a week for a couple hours, he is starting to talk more from being with his peers. Luckily he is not a shy kid and he is very smart. He has crazy good memory so most of the time it takes one week for him to learn a new sound. I am not really worried about his speech anymore and I am guessing he will not need to be in therapy next year. I’m just glad that all the hours we’ve put into it really helped. And this year, he was able to say "Trick or treat" on Halloween!

I’ve been enjoying having 2.5/3 hours to myself 4 times a week when both kids are in school. It’s not a lot of time since I have to walk home, eat lunch, and that’s probably an hour gone. Better than nothing! So far I’ve kept busy reorganizing our home. This time, following that Japanese lady’s book about Tidying Up, I followed it step by step. I even made every closet personalized with art hanging on the walls inside the closet, put books and little items that I love. I even started a new trash system and starting freezing my food scraps to take to the compost collection at the farmer’s market. I was so thorough this time, I really haven’t had to clean the house since I finished. I just put things back to their “home”. It’s really amazing. I used to feel like I work for my house, and now my home is working for me and making me feel happy! 

I was supposed to be working on starting the parenting consultation business a while back. Then when Harrison got diagnosed with speech I put my own stuff on hold. Now that I have more time, I’ve been thinking about what I should do to pave the road for next year when both kids are in school full time. I was all set to work on the parenting stuff, but now I’m getting sidetracked by the idea of being professional organizer. Marie Kondo, the Tidying up author has a certificate program. It’s not available yet, but I am definitely interested in doing that. I guess I’ve always enjoyed organizing and considered that a career option. In the past I just thought I don’t want to end up being a house cleaner or go through other people’s stuff. This method is more like being a coach, and the philosophy behind it to surround yourself with things that bring you joy is way beyond cleaning. I am going to start a blog for the organizing, and maybe another one for the parenting just so it wasn't a total waste. I can keep busy with that and help friends and family tidy up until I get certified. 

Oh and I got a bread machine! I was getting concerned about all the products having Soy Lecithin which I read is really bad for you. I first was buying frozen bread made from a bakery. Then the bread machine changed my life. I make it 3-4x a week! And I have become more adventurous with adding more fiber into the recipe.  

This year has been hard for Chris. Many of the projects didn't come through for reasons out of his control. I think 2016 just has been a tough year business wise, but it's harder for creatives to feel motivated when jobs don't go through. Hopefully in the new year things will pick up again. He has gotten a lot of recognition for his work for Gilette, and they have returned for more because the clients loves his work so much. This project took him to South Africa for 3 weeks to shoot, and next week he'll be going to Spain for another Gilette spot. So at least there's the perks for being able to travel and see the world a little bit. 

We also got the great news that Len and Elaine want to convert our building to a condo. This means we will be able to buy a little piece of Brooklyn history! It's a long process, but it's one that we are all very happy about. We are so lucky to be able to have this opportunity. It pays to be nice people, and our relationship with the Gelsteins has definitely made our lives better in so many ways. 

Until next year!

Winter 2015/Spring 2016

Happy 2016! As usual Chris and I had a quiet new year's eve celebration by ordering in and watching movies. This update is a little late so unfortunately I can't remember what we ate or watched. 

So the cruise turned out to be better than expected. Maybe because I went in thinking to myself to not stress over food or cleaning up. With the all day buffet, places for Harrison and Oliver to run around and play in the pool, twice a day room clean up, going out after the kids goes to bed…it was the first time I felt like I was really on vacation. Nothing bothered me at all. The little bit of rocking on the boat felt very soothing. 

We went on one excursion in Florida where we took an airboat out to the wetlands. We saw a gator, held a baby gator and Harrison kissed it, and even held a big python. Harrison also tried to get me to kiss it by grabbing it’s head and shoving it in my face. That kid is fearless. On the ship we tried a rope course that was 30 feet in the air, then in the Bahamas we went to the beach. On the ship we played in the pool, waterslides, ping pong, arcade, miniature golf, watched comedy shows, ball room dancing, and a circus performance and kids talent show. After 2 days the ship didn't feel as big, but it was nice to know our way around. 

Just before the trip I talked to my mom on the phone, she was having a fight with her boyfriend. When she sounds mad I always just assume she’s mad at me! hahaha! So he proposed to her, she said yes, but they had a fight and she called it off. Old people! I really don’t care if she gets married again or not. I think as long as she’s happy and someone to keep her company, it’s all good. The funny thing was that she’s just not a good girlfriend! Just like she used to do to me, when she gets mad she just threatens to leave or she wants to kick him out. In the end, my semi-professional opinion is that she has trust issues, and that she needs to trust that he never did any of the things she gets mad about to piss her off on purpose. After a 3 hour call, I gave her some advice and told her to buy some self help book since her “case” isn’t that unique. Every woman has the same complains about their boyfriend/husband, she just didn’t know it. Anyway, then I realized that I sounded just like her, and I should follow my own advice. Since then, a lot of the resentment I had went away. ALSO, just as I purged things that didn’t bring me joy, I realized I needed to let those feelings go as well. 

After 13 years of marriage and now in counseling, I know it will take time to get our relationship to a place where we feel close again. Nothing bad happened, but we just got caught up with our own world. Chris with his work and me and the kids. So something to be mindful of now is that you have to put your marriage high on the priority list. It’s worth every penny to get a sitter and go out on date nights. It’s good for everyone. 

In 2 weeks Harrison will be going to a class twice a week for 90 minutes without me. I haven’t had a chance to work on my teaching material yet for my new mommy workshop, but I think once I have that very focused time I’ll be able to. It will be very strange to be without him, but he’ll be just 2 blocks down the street. : ) Harrison is still not talking much or clearly. Tomorrow morning a speech therapist will come and evaluate him and see if he’s just a late talker or if there’s other stuff going on. He’s such a happy kid and very physical, so maybe it’ll just take time for the speech to catch up. Then there’s potty training and switching to a toddler bed…oh, they grow up so fast. 

More to come...

Fall 2015

It's getting cooler again. We had a great summer with my mom and sister visiting, but it was also nice to have more space in our apartment and get back on a schedule. Oliver started 2nd grade and is really enjoying school. He's in Mr. Levy and Ms. Dewan's class with a few kids he knew from first grade. He is still taking drum lessons and is obsessed with Minecraft. He is still very helpful around the house and with taking care of little Harrison. Sometimes I bring Harrison with me to pick up Oliver from school. The 2 of them will run around the playground…mostly Harrison will follow Oliver everywhere and do everything his big brother does. 

Harrison is 28 months old and attends a mommy and me class at Just Wee Twol for 2 days a week, 90 minutes each time. He is still the most cheerful kid in the class who says “yah!” after just about anything. Recently he climbed out of his crib onto Oliver’s bunk bed and will also jump off the top bunk (about 40 inches high) He is a fearless kid and continues to put himself in danger with a smile on his face. This week he finally started showing some interest in talking. It’s been interesting seeing how differently the 2 boys develop. Oliver was having conversation by the age Harrison is at now, but he was definitely not as physically coordinated as Harrison. 

I have been going to the gym twice a week for the last few months. I see my mom, my in laws, my landlords all having aches and pains and other health issues. I hope in 20 years I’ll be in a better place if I make the effort to take better care of myself. Both of my boys love to run and we live next to the best running path with Manhattan view in the background. Maybe next spring I can start going jogging with the boys. 

I’ve also been thinking about what to do when Harrison starts going to school without me. I know I can do some freelance design work, but I was also thinking of starting a new mom support play group. Basically combining my experience from the MOMS Club, teaching chinese classes to little kids, my book that I never bothered to sell, and using my status as a certified parenting instructor all rolled into one. I think by mid January I’ll be able to take Harrison to a class where I drop him off. The class is just 2 blocks away. I think I can teach a 45 min class while he is in a 90 minute class. I can do a 6-week session and have it at our apartment for a group of 5 or 6 moms, twice a week. It’s been so long since I worked but I know I can do this. I’ll get a chance to make some money, socialize, and use what I’ve learned to help other moms. I just ordered some of my books that I can sell them in class. : ) 

Chris is doing well. He’s been working a lot and directing a lot for Brand New School. It’s such a good change for us. The projects are so much better with better budgets and exposure. He’s very well taken care of because people respect his talent and skills. I’m very proud of where he is now in his career. Here are some of his work.

http://brandnewschool.com/directors/chris-dooley

Looking ahead, we'll be going to a cruise with grandma to the Florida and the Bahamas during Christmas time. It will be our first cruise. I'm looking forward to trying out new things and getting a break from having to cook or clean. We have on the agenda to go ride on an airboat and see alligators. I think the boys really benefit from having new experiences, especially in nature. Life experience is the best gift we can give them. Merry Cruise-mas!

Mid Year Update 2015

It's hard to believe I'm now a 40-year-old stay at home mom with a soon to be 7-year old who is about as tall as I am, and 2-year old who's ready to conquer the world. I spend most of my days with the same routine to keep the kids and husband alive and happy, the house in order, and myself fed and somewhat rested. Now that the weather is warm, I am making a little extra effort to put on a cute, brighter color outfit and some lipstick before heading out the door. The goal is to break up the routine and start having more life experiences so the first year of me being 40 doesn't go by quietly.

It wasn't quiet indeed. I spent the first few seconds shortly after midnight vomiting into a trash can at a movie theater. Let me back up a little bit. The weekend before my birthday was spent in upstate New York for a wedding in Lake George. The drive to the resort was traffic free and smooth except for the moment when both of my boys threw up in the backseat. I was glad that they felt better and got some color back on their faces.

The resort itself was nice, and the lake and surroundings was beautiful. The rooms were fine except the decor was a bit dark for my taste. Harrison agrees and showed it by throwing himself on the ground every time we entered the room. We got a sitter for the night of the wedding, who was very sweet but sadly obese and that worried me a little about her taking care of two high energy kids who likes to run in different directions. I had to trust that Oliver will step up and run after Harrison if necessary. Then just before the wedding we discovered that I've packed the wrong suit for Chris and it looked terrible. I felt terrible. We went to a beautiful wedding were I only knew my husband and the groom and actor Andrew Shue who is a friend of the bride's family. My allergies was killing me, my shoes were killing me, and as I found out at the end of the night the food served at the wedding was killing me. I threw up 8 times that night. I was glad to be going home the next day and luckily the ride back was vomit free.

Fast forward a week later and I had plans to have a good birthday/mother's day celebration. First Chris and I met with my old boss at Disney for a drink before dinner. Then we had a nice meal at Lincoln Ristoranté. I made the mistake of drinking too early and eating too much. By the time we made it to our 11pm showing of the Avengers 3D, I was already not feeling great. 20 minutes into the action packed movie in an IMAX theater with seats too close to the giant screen, we had to leave. As I fumbled my way out the theater looking, passing the 3D glasses return bin, looking for a non-recycling trashcan to throw up into. I was happy to get home and just go to sleep.

That was the end of the "cleansing", out with the old and ready for a new decade. The latest project was throwing a Spy 007 birthday party for Oliver, complete with secret agent badges and finger print scanner and password for entering, TNT detonator that says "Do Nut Push" which covers stacks of donuts as birthday cake, laser obstacle course, a balloon popping game called the Bomb Squat, dress up photoshoot for the best master of disguise. It was really fun and I had a blast making all the props and games.

The next big thing is Harrison's surgery tomorrow. I know he'll be just fine. I just hope I will be too.

This summer Oliver will be in summer camp for 2 weeks, continue with drum lessons, and probably go back to taking swim lessons as well. My mom and sister will be visiting and we plan on going to Boston for a few days for whale watching and visit the aquarium and science museum. I'm also looking forward to the boy's reaction when we take the Duck Tour where the bus goes from land then turned into a boat and goes along the river.

Before wrapping this up I just want to include something that I wrote about our boys for something too complicated to explain:

Oliver

Oliver is kind, caring, sensitive. His gentle, easy going personality allows him to make friends easily and is loved by his friends ranging in age from 2, to our 72-year old neighbor Len. He’s very loving, patient and thoughtful. He can get very emotional and cry when he hears or sees something sad. I describe his as a raw nerve or the way your gums feel after having a tooth pulled. At the same time, he has a great sense of humor has an absolutely contagious laugh. Recently, he’s discovered what all of us adults already know….that fart jokes and butts are hilarious.

Oliver is very bright and a quick learner. This year he’s learning to play drums and has really taken to it. Not quite at Stephen level, yet but call us in a few years and he’d be happy to step in. He’s extremely creative with his Lego building, as each piece is carefully chosen with a purpose. He has the mind of an engineer, a wonderful imagination and the gift of storytelling.

As a big brother, he is very considerate of his baby brother’s needs. His face lights up when he sees Harrison. Recently we found out that Harrison will need to have surgery. Oliver’s response was that he felt sad that Harrison will feel pain, and that he wishes he can feel the pain for his brother.
As a son, he’s a helpful and contributing member of the family. He loves his family and enjoys spending time with us. Every night before bed we cuddle and share with each other our favorite things of the day.

Harrison

This is the happiest child I’ve ever met. There’s not a person, dog, or truck that passes by that he doesn’t wave to. There’s not a song or book or game that ends without him dancing or throwing his arms up and cheer. When he enters the room, everyone smiles. When he is playing, he becomes very quiet and focused in his world. He likes to lay on the floor and push his toy train and trucks and watch the wheels turn. Once in a while he’ll just laugh, which makes me wonder if there’s a story going on inside his head. When Harrison was a baby, we noticed some veins on his cheek that seemed to spell the word “LOVE” (see attached photo) which came as a surprise until we got to know him a bit better. Now it makes total sense.

He naturally likes to share his food and toys with others. When he sees you upset, he’ll come over and give you a hug. When he does something that makes you laugh, he’ll keep doing it and enjoy the moment with you.

While not quite 2 years old, he seem more confident and sure of himself than most people. He walks around without fear. In his baby class, he feels comfortable sitting in the middle of the circle instead of in his mom’s lap. When he sees a big dog, he will go right up to it and let the dog lick his face. When he is with Oliver, he doesn’t hesitate to try what Oliver is doing.
Their personalities are almost polar opposites, yet they can’t be any closer as brothers. In the 2 years they’ve known each other they have never had a fight. There’s a mutual love and concern for one another. They are very lucky to have each other and we are blessed to have them both.

Spring 2015

This was written as an update to our friends and family that I forgot to post here. It's April 2015 and 46 degree in New York. I really would like to go out one day without a jacket and a hat. It’s been about 8 months of cold weather. Enough already!

Other than the weather, we are all doing well. I was busy for a couple weeks when out of the blue an old colleague called me. She didn’t even know I moved away. She started a new boudoir photography business and needed a logo and website. I took it on, but I realize my nights are my only free time so I really rather just watch some tv and go to sleep than being in front of the computer. Also, the revisions just kills me. I rather work on little projects that goes away after a few days and never have to think about it again. It was, however, nice to do something creative again and know that I can still do it.

I also kind of forced my way into re-organizing my mother in law’s apartment. She really doesn’t have the physical and mental strength to unpack the boxes that’s been stacked in her 500 sq. ft apartment for 7 months. It was driving me crazy. So finally on a day when she had to go out, I orchestrated having people watch Harrison while I went back and forth between her apartment and ours, running back to bring Harrison to another friend to watch him, running home to put him down for a nap. I was like a mad woman moving at top speed to give her place a make over. It was like one of those HGTV reality shows, except I did it all on my own.

The good news she was very happy with the result. I’m really hoping that with the new environment it will help her feel more open to having people over an make some friends. I’ve read enough self help books to know what’s crippling her ability to live with more joy. Sometimes I get so frustrated that we’ve handed her the perfect life for a grandparent, paying off her debt, bought this amazing place in a great neighborhood down the street from her only family, yet she is trapped in own head and an unhealthy lifestyle. Now that I can actually bring the boys over there to play, maybe it will start a change and she can find some motivation to enjoy life.

On a more uplifting note. Chris has gone back to work on staff at Brand New School, NYC. The company has grown so much since he worked there over 10 years ago. He’s really enjoying working there and has a great support team. He’s won a few jobs already since he started in January and is currently shooting an international campaign for Gillett in Cape Town, South Africa!! When he had a little downtime, he and the crew went to check out African Penguins at the beach, and cage diving with sharks!!

Harrison is 20 months old now. He’s one cute fellow and very social and independent. He’s a lot of fun to be around and has the greatest giggle. He’s still not saying much still yet he understands Chinese and English equally. So whenever he’s ready...

And Oliver, the best big brother. The most wonderful son. He’s so sweet and helpful. He’s doing very well in school and recently started taking drum lessons. For spring break I signed him up for a music camp (that part of the day they go to an indoor rock wall climbing place across the street!) Him and his band of 6-9 year olds played a song together, Break Free by Ariana Grande. It was very cute but made me cringe a bit too. At the end of the show Oliver just started playing this beat on his own, and the teacher joined in on the piano. So cool to see this side of him not shy to perform in front of people. I feel so proud.

The Past 2 Years

Ok. So 2 years have gone by and I haven't written a thing. I can't remember much, but I know why I haven't written an update. I had a baby! The sweetest cutest boy who is now 1.5 years old and loves to say "yeh!!" The two beautiful boys are keeping me busy and I love being their mom.

Harrison is so different from Oliver. From the start his sleeping habits was just the opposite. We had a tough time getting him to sleep. I ended up using a sleep consulting service which helped so much. Harrison eats everything. He loves fish and shrimp. He's very active and outgoing. He loves to greet people and cheer after every song. He isn't really talking yet but understands everything in English and Chinese. He points and signs and nods or shakes his head. It seems he communicates so well there's no need to speak. He goes to a gym class and a mommy and me class. He really enjoys being in the classes and participates in everything with so much enthusiasm. He has the greatest smile and laughs. He is so lucky to have such a caring and loving big brother who has to put up with a lot changes since he came along. I'm so happy they have each other.

A couple highlights. We sold our house in LA and bought a studio co-op down the street for my mother in law to live. With her being so close, I'm able to go pick up Oliver while she comes over to stay with Harrison. That was a big project getting approved by the co-op and probably some of the most stressful days of my life, but it was all worth it.

The biggest change happened not to myself but to my mom. She reunited with an old friend who turned out had been secretly in love with her for the last 34 years. Dad passed away 4 years ago and it's been lonely for my mom being by herself in California. Since then she's moved back to Taiwan and has been enjoying time with her companion. I'm really happy for her for having this chance to enjoy life and be taken care of. I don't think any of us ever thought this would happen, but everything happens for a reason and when there's an opportunity to be happy, you just have to take a chance.

So basically other than taking care of the baby, I was moving one mom closer and one mom to the other side of the world. What's weird is that I don't really have a big project like that lined up anymore. I have also learned that I need to take better care of myself and not only focus on getting things done.

A few other things that happened recently are my childhood best friend separated from her husband of 12 years. Another friend, same thing happened after 17 years. News like that really shook me and made me want to focus more on my marriage. We all get caught up in the day to day stress with work and taking care of the children. It is easy to neglect our most important relationship when we get used to the routine. I took those news as a sign that I should work hard to maintaining good communication and relationships, not just in my marriage but in friendships as well. I like that the universe sends signs like that.

Another big news, my old boss at Disney was let go after 17 years. It was so shocking and painful to know that he was so devoted to the company. He is one of the most creative artist I've ever met. I have so much respect for him. He built my career and has been a mentor for me since I interned for him. Knowing that he was no longer at Disney felt like I lost my only "home" in LA after my mom moved away. The good news is his daughter lives in New York, so there's a good chance I'll actually see him more. Who knows maybe someday I'll work for him again.

I think the most important change in the last 2 years has been my awareness of my feelings, positive and negative. I've always been big on self help books and finding ways to strengthen my inner self. I feel more confident in my ability and strength to be responsible for my actions, to correct mistakes, to learn from them, to become clearer about who I am and who I want to be, or what I want to be. I've made some good friends since moving to New York, and those I kept in touch with in LA are close to my heart too. Maybe it's because I lost a dear friend since I moved here and the reason according to her was that I didn't value her time as much as I valued my own. That, was another wake up call. Although I have my own opinion on what was really the reason we broke up, either way it's a reminder for me to be there for my friends. Maybe it's because I turn 40 this year. I think I have to take everything I have learned this far and apply them. I want to be a good example for my children. I want to build a lasting marriage with my husband and for my children to have that support. I want to feel at peace with my decisions in life and find joy everyday.

Hopefully I'll have another update in less than 2 years. Until then, a reminder to myself of my favorite quote. "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain."

Catching up

I'm 3 days away from meeting our new baby boy. I am feeling great most of the time except at night trying to sleep and dealing with the heat and humidity. This pregnancy started out rough but really has been great after the first trimester. I think all the walking in NY has helped keep my body in better condition. I didn't put on as much weight, and is much more mobile than when I has pregnant with Oliver. Even being so close to the delivery I'm still very active and keeping a pretty regular schedule.

The last few months as part of my planning and nesting I've been busy taking care of our finances and any updates to our apartment. I had a long list, but was very disciplined in getting things done. I'm glad that I was able to take care of all the major projects including selling of our house in LA and getting a financial advisor to help us with the money.

Each week since Oliver's been out of school I have been planning weekly outings and emailing his friends so he can meet up with his friends. I've become good friends with Marisa whose 2 boys John and Jude play very well with Oliver. Marisa used to work for Martha Steward Wedding so we have a lot to talk about other than our kids. A few months back another friend Stephanie, Sacha, Elaine, and Marisa took me out to brunch as a baby shower. I felt so loved and special knowing that in Brooklyn I have many new friends who care so much about me. And they are all really wonderful genuine people. One thing I said during brunch was that I never imagined my life like this 2 years ago. When Chris and I talked about moving to NY, I felt comfortable with the idea because of one of my closest friend Heejo was living here. Hard to believe that we had a falling out and she's no longer in my life. However the new direction my life has taken is a path I feel confident and strongly about.

I feel for the first time I have more control over my own life and know where to set my boundaries. I know I'll be very busy taking care of the baby, Oliver, and our home. And I'm looking forward to starting my career as a parenting instructor when the time comes. It's taken me 38 years to get here, and I'm grateful for every good and bad experience that guided me to where I am today.